“It Was Not Really About Money…”

by Carna Zacharias-Miller
www.missingmother.com
www.magicaleft.com

Kelly (not her real name) contacted me about money issues, but said right away that it was not really about money – it was about limiting messages she had received from her mother, whose energy had been blocking her professional and financial success for a long time. Kelly: “I am not good enough, I don’t deserve money and success, I don’t amount to anything – those are the messages I got from my mother. And she was right. But I know that I can be successful, it’s my turn. She is blocking me.”

Her anger was at an intensity level of 10 – her stomach and upper body very tight, so we started with tapping on that and continued with more negative comments that were coming up (i.e. “Why can’t you be like your brother? You are sick in the head if you think you can do that!”).

Then I introduced Inner Theater to her. I asked her to envision her professional goal (she has a very clear goal indeed) as a pot of gold, or a rainbow in the distance, and then tell me what kind of blockage might be showing up between her and her goal.

She said right away that there was this beautiful rainbow in the distance, but her mother was standing there in a field, very stern and demanding. Her mother said, “You are not going there! Who do you think you are? You are nothing!”

Kelly’s anger rose to a 10 again, and a sense of desperation came up: “She did not want me, I was the last child”. More tapping.

When I asked her to look again, Kelly said that the mother was concerned that her daughter was about to go past her: “She doesn’t like it, she is afraid that I am going to leave her in the dust.”

After another round of tapping, the anger and tightness in her stomach dropped appreciably. Taking another look, Kelly said: “She is stepping aside. I am going past her! She says: ‘I can’t believe that you are doing this, how could you.’”

Since Kelly was still a bit afraid that the mother would grab her, we tapped on that fear.

And then came the big shift: “I am halfway to the rainbow, and she is way back. WOW!”

Three weeks later, I received an e-mail from Kelly:

“The session helped me A LOT! More than anything else I have tried and in hardly any time. I feel so much better. I still have a ways to go but I’m getting there. I have kept the visual and have gone way past my mother.”

Carna Zacharias-Miller
Certified EFT practitioner
www.missingmother.com
www.magicaleft.com