My friend Melissa had been struggling with many chronic ailments, including insomnia, constipation (from sleeping pills), fibromyalgia, PTSD and severe pelvic pain for over six months. We had been out of touch for some time, and when we reconnected, I was shocked that my once vibrant and active friend had literally found herself too weak to leave the house most days. Thankfully, she did have a “healing team” consisting of several medical doctors, a reiki practitioner and now – me. Luckily within the last three weeks, following a number of reiki treatments, Melissa had finally been able to embrace the possibility of getting well.

During our preliminary talk, Melissa shared that a reiki healing experience had given her an energetic “kickstart” towards possibly getting her life back. However, while she believed the reiki had been crucial for helping her, she also confided that the visualization offered during this work had involved “too much pushing” and did not necessarily honor her needs.

Two years before, Melissa lost her little sister to a drug overdose. While she indicated a desire to heal and move on, her sister’s passing had had a devastating effect upon her – so much so, she did not think she could ever make peace with it. We spoke about how using EFT in the Inner Theater could potentially help change the way her grief might be affecting her – in a gentle way that would honor her needs completely.

We began our session with gentle EFT on her physical symptoms and her feelings about them. What came up almost immediately was the enormous amount of fear she carried around being “well.” She brought up the clear realization that there was a part of her that was extremely resistant – terrified of being well – just as much as there was a part that was so ready to be healed. “Who would I be? I have never not been struggling against something!” While we worked with this fear somewhat – it did not subside, and I could sense there was a need to get her “out of her head.”

Sensing that a visual, guided approach would help us “sneak up on the problem” more, I offered her the possibility of going into her own Sacred Space. When introducing this process, I will usually offer a road, a door – a gateway to a safe personal space where an inner story can unfold. In Melissa’s case, I offered her a peaceful journey down a road of some kind. She liked this immediately, and we talked about the perfect weather for such a trip. She settled on fall with yellows leaves filling the road and gently falling from the trees.

At the beginning of the scene she immediately found herself driving comfortably along her peaceful road until, quite by her own guidance, she stopped some distance from a gigantic tree. Since this was an “in-person” session and she had indicated that tapping was physically uncomfortable for her, I gently squeezed her fingertips while she told me what she was feeling and what she was seeing. She indicated that the tree felt safe and comforting – so much so that she actually wanted to hug it. She offered that it reminded her of her father or father figure, so safe and warm and deeply rooted under her. She then expressed sadness that she had never felt that safety and security herself – she felt as if she was floating above the roots.

As we moved along, I asked again about that fear of getting well [Note: This is revisiting of an initial intensity level is a form of both inner theater and EFT “testing”]. She immediately said it was like a huge concrete wall. She expressed that she could indeed see it, but that it terrified her, even though it was some distance away to her left. She felt she could not safely approach it, much less climb it. I told her she could do whatever she liked in the space, including sit in the comfort of the tree as long as she needed. She expressed extraordinary gratitude about being able to honor this boundary for herself – to honor her own time and her own needs.

Sitting against the tree, she talked (as I tapped) through some of her feelings of fear. At this point, her sister, Morgan, entered her mind. I asked if she would like her sister to potentially join her somehow in the scene. Without prompting from me, she said, “She’s here,” and indicated that her sister was approaching the vicinity of the tree. The relief and disbelief in her voice was palpable and we spent some time “tapping” through both what she was seeing with her minds eye and feeling as her sister approached and sat down next to her.

For a moment, Melissa was confused that her sister could look so healthy and refreshed and different than the young, troubled woman she had last known. However, we “tapped” on this as well until her feelings stabilized and she was moving on to describing the interaction. Two aspects stand out for me about this part. Firstly, Melissa was momentarily confused about what face to put on her sister, since her face was not in full view. I offered that maybe her face was not visible to her for a reason and to just focus upon the physical parts of her sister she could easily see [note: In Inner Theater, this is called “staying in the moment.”]

Immediately Melissa’s voice relaxed and she indicated that her focus was falling comfortably onto Morgan’s knee. As we tapped on this visual, Melissa was able to look a bit higher and rest her gaze on her sister’s thigh. Sensing this was going to be a journey in itself and we were nearing the end of our time together, I thought that this was a good time to again ask about how she felt about the interaction [Note: this “what are you seeing / what are you feeling” back-and-forth is very common in an inner theater session.] She indicated that she wanted to express anger towards her sister for leaving, and that there was much more to say. She also indicated that it “felt so good and right” to be there with her sister and that Morgan had agreed to stay and/or return as long as Melissa needed to talk. Needless to say, this was an enormous sense of comfort to Melissa. For a moment, Melissa indicated that scene had abruptly changed to her watching she and her sister entertain the possibility of climbing the wall together. While she still felt fearful and “not ready”, this moment represented a real awakening to the possibilities of this healing interaction with Morgan.

As the session drew to a close, I offered that Melissa could return to this moment on her own at any time. I also offered that she could take the whole scene into her heart and know that she carried it with her always. We spent some time coming out of the session, processing what was happening, until Melissa felt both connected to her sacred space and completely ready come back to physical reality.

1 Day Update: While still needing to take sleeping medication, Melissa reports that she is more upbeat and pain-free in her waking hours since our session. She has since reorganized her office (a feat near-impossible previously). She reports that she feels enormous peace around the passing of her sister, and comfort that what transpired was real and truly life-changing process for her. I look forward to several more sessions with Melissa – and I’ll let you know what happens!

Three Week Update:
“[Since our session] I’ve been able to envision my own life – untethered from Morgan. Maybe there’s less guilt, maybe that I was unconscious of before – I’ve been able to focus on me with an energy and a fervor for life – there is definitely more peace. There’s a shift there for sure.

During acupuncture, I chose to “go there” to my sacred space – to the tree. It was pretty cool. I liked that I controlled it. We did more work together. She said ‘I’ll go over it with you.’ I could again visualize us going up over the wall. It was beautiful, bucolic, green pastured world. She said, ‘I’ll be with you the whole way. If you want to sit under the tree, I’m here.’ The vision gave me a place to visit her – a beautiful, tangible and accessible place. Very real. This vision has an integrity. It has a life of it’s own.

The biggest thing is the pelvic pain is %60 better. I’m not invested in attributing it to any one thing, but this has been torturing me for over 6 months is finally starting to heal. It has faded, it’s softened. It’s smaller. I feel like I’ve got some hope. I’m also laughing more in a hearty, sincere way. I enjoy the laughter. I’m easier going with my husband – I see and feel the response. Letting go is allowing some light in my body. I’m taking the lighter road. What’s shifting is my relationship with people and that is huge. Before our work together, feeling good inside was not something I knew how to do.”

I would like to share a beautiful Inner Theatre experience regarding a client suffering chronic anxiety, with a deep fear of hospitals and constant paranoia about having a serious illness.

She started by being aware that behind the door [to her sacred space] there had to be in an open space, so we tapped for that (a closed space would be claustrophobic) till she felt safe to go through – where she was by a lake in the mountains. She did not want to see or remember anything, so we tapped on honouring how painful it had been and how hard it would be to see what might appear, but allowing whatever needed to heal to come forward. Her mother appeared beside her.

With her mother she revisited the memory or being left alone in hospital. We then switched to the inner child work as this was all more feelings than seeing anything, just a strong sense of anger and outrage, and we let that child express herself until she was able to see that her mother had never abandoned her, she had come back, and the hospital had saved her life and perhaps they knew best, or even if not they were doing what they believed was best. She had been at deaths door so she felt gratitude to them and now felt a deep sense of connection. We finished with her being aware of this baby being held safely in her mothers arms. When she was ready to come away she felt a great sense of peace and safety, that she had what it took as an adult to be safe without her mother, knowing that her mother had indeed always been there, and she had been living with the feeling of a baby for most of her life. So we tapped for her regret for that. She felt a great sense of peace and calm and all the stomach pain she had (her original problem was gastroenteritis) had settled down.

I offered a visualisation in her stomach of an army (her nervous system). She indicated that they had been running around in mad confusion with no leader. Then they all laid down and refused to move. At the end they were getting up, relaxed, but altered, brushing themselves down, and she knew they were ready to listen to her higher self. She was her own leader and would respond appropriately when needed, but in the meantime her army was relaxed. We then had to tap for her fears that this was too good to be true, and I invited the part to come forward that was telling her this. This part was the one who had been going for weeks of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) without relief and they told her not to come back as she was not doing it properly. We allowed her to express all her anger and upset, and she realised she had not failed, they had just not discerned the presence of this terrified, abandoned, angry baby. Now she had been healed, she checked back in and the baby was giggling, and laughing. She realised this process was indeed beneficial, and one she could continue to work with.

I am grateful for all the tools I have gained from you Betty and Jade.

Lots of love,
Gillian Wightman
East Neuk Therapies, Scotland
www.eastneuktherapies.co.uk

One day the client, Anna, came to me very scared and almost in tears. Her left nostril was noticeably closed as it had been for months. She had adhesions to the bone of the nose and the air could not go through. The doctor had just informed her that in order to re-establish correct breathing she had to be operated on very soon.

Anna was terrified.

We immediately started a tapping session with visualization.

I asked the name of her favourite flower and told her to try to see it by imaging of full-throated smelling it and repeat: “I feel the smell…I can smell it all the way…the smell comes into my lungs…I can feel the smell coming up my nose…”

Since we only had 20 minutes, I told her to repeat this exercise at home 3-4 times a day.
The following day, Anna informed me that a drop of blood had painlessly come out from her nose.

Anna continued to repeat the exercise for a week before meeting with me again. The nostril was noticeably open and she could breathe almost completely…

After a few days, everything was back to normal!

We went to see her doctor together to show him the ‘miracle’ achieved through EFT…the surgery was no longer necessary!

I learned afterward that the flower chosen by Anna was the sunflower. When she realised that this flower in reality has a very bad smell, it was already all over!

Later still Anna told me that her left nostril had started to close with the beginning of disagreements regarding the moral behaviour of a woman in her family…(something smells fishy…)

Perhaps Anna wanted to smell it no more…

In response, Anna said: “Thanks Anita for having released me from this problem and from the risk of a surgery. I have learnt EFT and now I practise it daily for any circumstance and my life has clearly improved.”